THE HEART OF THE 5 LOVE LANGUAGES People express and receive love in different ways. Dr. Gary Chapman  identifies these as the five languages of love: quality time, words of affirmation,  gifts, acts of service and physical touch. If you express love toward others in  a way they don't understand, they will not realize you've expressed your love at  all. The problem is that you're speaking different languages! Abridged version of  the New York Times bestselling title.